Flake, Sharon G. The Family I’m In. Scholastic, 2025. 978-1-338-57320-6. 276 p. $18.99. Grades 7-9.
John McIntyre is a short, African American teen with bumps on his chin and a precarious relationship with his macho dad. Despite his annoyance with his father for pressuring him to get a girlfriend, John wants one. His best friend Caleb has broken up with his girlfriend, the lovely and confident Maleeka. Caleb has many distractions. Caleb’s father, Mr. Porter, has had massive strokes and is now disabled. With the Porter family’s financial situation in jeopardy, Caleb contemplates not returning to school and working full-time to support his family. This impressionable summer before senior year has many ups and downs for John, who sheds his nickname, JJ, for just John. He excels at archery, not the typical sport his father would prefer, though he purchased John’s equipment for him. His father has a new wife and a new son, with another child on the way. Successful and generous, Mr. McIntyre is a hard act to follow, and John vacillates between admiring his father and being frustrated with his efforts to pigeon-hole John’s personality and future. He remains in this teetering position with Caleb also. Ever the caring son, Caleb not only is his family’s breadwinner, but he provides physical care for his dad. When he is not working his summer job in the bookmobile, John hangs out at Caleb’s house, though Caleb’s distant behavior makes for some volatile conflicts between the two. In The Family I’m In, author Sharon G. Flake makes John the focus of this coming of age drama and his struggles with relationships, his desire to know who he wants to be, and what place he holds as his father’s son and as a member of a blended family. Sharon G. Flake adds this title to her other books, The Skin I’m In and The Life I’m In. As young readers observe, John negotiates the teen romance world and the responsible adult world, and they will find Draper’s down-to-earth prose and dialogue relatable, cisgender boys in particular.
THOUGHTS: The Family I’m In depicts an urban neighborhood, a bit down on the heels, but with close families. Closeness is key in this book: John is close to his mother; to his best friend; to his friend’s ailing father. He wants to be close with his father, and his father wants to be close to his son; but they keep miscommunicating. John wants to feel a part of his father’s new family, but he feels shut out. Most of all, he wants to be accepted by a girl. Awkward and unconfident, to be accepted would give John validation and boost his self esteem. The plot in this story is like watching people live. I found it a satisfying read, one many of my students will appreciate.
Realistic Fiction